Pure Online

The phrase "pure online" almost seems like an oxymoron to me. I have to admit that when sex-addicts, recovering or not, find my site, I often think, "What are you doing online?!". I am very grateful my husband has chosen to "flee youthful lusts" (flee before the fight wherever possible), and does not have a career that requires him to be near a computer.

That being said, there are so many wonderful resources, and communities of believers, online, and it would be wonderful if the internet was a safer place. I would be very supportive if Hubby decided to install a good filter/accountability software, so he could feel more comfortable taking advantage of these things, but that's his decision to make.

The ministry site, Pure Online, is one that I visited awhile back, but recently returned to at the prompting of a reader. She thought I would find their ministry inspiring, and I did. Pure Online is not at all the only sex addiction ministry on the internet, but it does offer some solid resources that I thought I'd point out to any of you who are looking for structured help in your recovery processes.

My reader directed me to their wives page which contains a video message from the beautiful Renee Crosse, wife of Clay Crosse, that really puts the reader at ease. Below Renee's message are the wives' FAQs, and I am in full support of the way Pure Online chooses to answer them. For example:

Am I to blame?

If you are like most women in your shoes, your husband was probably struggling with sexual sin long before he met you. It most likely began in childhood or adolescence, growing day-by-day and over the years, securing an unyielding grip on his life.

And my personal favorite because it is so applicable to our testimony:

Can I force my husband get help?

Very often, the one thing that gets a man into recovery is the urging (and sometimes the ultimatum) of his wife. While it is best for the man to decide on his own to get help, sometimes it just doesn’t happen this way. We (Pure Online) believe that God can use all kinds of circumstances to bring a man into right relationship with Himself - including (especially) the influence of his wife.

I did a little surfing of their entire site today, and I want to also draw attention to their single addicts' ministry. I am fully aware that not everyone who struggles is married, and not every married addict will have the fortune of remaining married. Ministry to the single sex addict is vital, and somewhat lacking. Pure Online seems to handle it beautifully, and if you are single, I would highly recommend taking advantage of the professional resources they provide.

In addition to their wives' ministry page, and their single men's workshop, they also offer online workshops for married men and single women. Their contributors are well known in the world of sex-addiction ministry, and include such names as:

Craig Gross (Pastor, Author, founder, XXXChurch.com)
Mike Holmes (licensed counselor and family life pastor)
Liz Casteel (licensed counselor and president, Nikao Counseling Center)
Clay Crosse (Christian recording artist and speaker)
Brandon Cotter (Founder/CEO Pure Online)
Jake Larson (speaker, teaching pastor)
Jason Harper (speaker, director of outreach, Capital Christian Center)
Kenny Luck (President Every Man Ministries, Minister to Men, Saddleback Church)

This is not a paid endorsement, but I came away from their site with such a good impression, that I felt I should pass it on. I hope that you will benefit, and will stay pure online.

Comments

[Steve]

I would not feel safe online if I did not have a filter. I use Safe Eyes. It works very well. I configured the settings very strict (I can't even pull up a swimsuit site), and then I gave the passcode to friends, so I can't override the system. There is just too much temptation online to take the chance.

[Kristy]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I've been reading for a few weeks now and often feel like we've walked in each other shoes.

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