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August 24, 2007


Jennifer F.

Wow, this post is so timely. Just last night I was reading St. Francis de Sales' Introduction to the Devout life, and he was talking about temptation and made this very point: that there's no fault in evil thoughts popping into your head. The devil will do that sometimes. It's *taking pleasure* in them where the sin comes in. In fact, it's comforting to know that the discomfort and loathing you feel towards those thoughts comes directly from Christ, for he is with you.

Great post!

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